🌟 Empowering Conversations: How and When to Talk to Your Child About Their Disability

WHY should you talk to your child about their disability?

Because children sense everything. They may feel “different” without knowing why. Talking honestly gives them words for what they feel and helps them feel valued and understood. It’s the first step in building a strong identity.

HOW should you talk to them?

Use simple, age-appropriate language. Be positive, even when being honest. For example:

“Your brain works in a different way. That’s why some things are harder, but it also means you see the world in a special way.”

Focus on their strengths, not just challenges. Reassure them that they are not broken, not alone, and are deeply loved.

👨‍👩‍👧 PARENT UNITY – Why Your Harmony Matters

Children learn not just from words—but from how parents behave. If you and your partner react differently, it can confuse or stress your child.

• Stay consistent: Try to use the same tone and message.

• Respect each other’s emotions: One of you may feel sadness, the other may feel acceptance. That’s okay—but talk about it in private.

• Make decisions together: Agree on how and when to talk to your child, what to say, and what support you’ll seek.

💬 “We are your team. We’re learning together, and we’ll always be here for you.”

WHO should talk to the child?

Anyone who cares deeply and knows the child well—parents, carers, grandparents, or therapists. But if there are multiple people involved, it’s vital that everyone gives the child the same respectful message.

WHEN is the right time?

There’s no one perfect time. But there are many right moments:

• When your child asks questions

• When they compare themselves to others

• After a therapy session or a new diagnosis

• During calm family time (like bedtime stories)

Start small, and let the conversation grow as they grow.

WHAT should you say?

Be honest, be warm, and most of all—be encouraging. For example:

“You are amazing just as you are. Yes, you learn differently—but you are smart, funny, and strong. We are proud of you.”

Use visuals, stories, drawings, or toys if needed. Keep the message clear:

“Being different is not bad. It’s just different.”